Take a quick look at the picture beside us. Closely! What does it make you think of? It makes me think of a number of different things. Primarily, it makes me think of how do couples solve this sex, love and intimacy puzzle?
Sex contains a great degree of pleasure power, but can lead to manipulative and sometime insensitive, mindless behaviours. Sex can cause us to be unconscious. So there is mindful sex and mindless sex. Mindful Sex I will talk about another day.
Sex also seems to have become a performance sport, similar to the Olympic sports. This performance focus takes you away from the joy of present moment and the communication possibilities. It becomes goal oriented and attached to success. Is that good? And what is success anyway?
When we first meet and fall in love it is exciting, wonderful and all consuming. Our partner is magic and fantastic and so are we. Life is great we think.
Sex with our new partner/lover is exploration, fun, feelings, explosions, intense, involving and wonderful too. Much of life around us is screened out and we two exist only with our romance and each other. It is great to fall in love and lust.
Bob and Marianne own SteppingStoneLifeCoaching.