If you are not growing, your not learning and you're getting stagnant. Like an old pond of water that has pretty much died from lack of light, oxygen and fresh water.
I have heard friends and clients sometimes say something like, "I have had enough of these challenges!"
Or, "I can't stand these ups and downs! ", or " If only life would just level out a little."
Whatever the story, the sentiment is the same. People often do not like challenges in their life, relationships and jobs. I would ask, is there something positive about all these challenges? Is there something worthwhile?
Absolutely yes! What, you say to me, are these positives then?
Well here they are.
1) A relationship is always made of ups and downs and the way you learn to handle the downs will determine the quality of your relationship. This is a fact. So challenges are an opportunity to build and experience a quality marriage /relationship. They are an opportunity to learn how to get it right, to find balance and happiness in your marriage and relationships and to grow. Or the challenges can be further proof that your life isn't good and you can blame yourself or others yet again. What do you want?
2) Challenges are measuring tools so we can see how good life can actually be when compared to the "whoops, here we are times!" In other words we can see what is good and bad by the differences and the pain involved.
3) Challenges make us into a better, happier and more confident person by allowing us to learn about how we can change our thinking and behaviors and therefore our life. We can just learn to change and that change is available to all of us.
4) Challenges in our relationships and marriages teach us that we are responsible for our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It is not the other person, but us that are responsible. Being responsible for our own stuff we learn to use our power to direct our lives in a happier and more successful way.
So, next time things heat up a little bit,stop, take 3 deep and slow in and out breaths , smile and ask yourself, " Do I want to keep creating this? Can I learn something from this?" ®
To your health, happiness and wholeness, Bob and Marianne