We are in our hearts very kind, enthusiastic and helpful people. Like many others in this world we like to contribute, to talk and share ideas. Bob, on the right, can be very enthusiastic, sometimes talk too much and has a strong voice.
During our time at the Ashram (retreat and learning center) we periodically met in smaller discusssion groups to do some reflections and discuss various topics.
One of the first afternoons I walked into a group talking enthusiastically and loudly. All of a sudden our group leader, Swami Gopalananda, spoke to me and asked, "Bob, do you always have to fill the space with the sound of your own voice?" It was a shock. It was a Kodak Moment. It was a giant learning experience that I have taken with me and remember deeply to this day. That comment has shaped how I am with others in my life now.
That is not the only thing that shaped me as I have studied and learned much about relationships and communications, meditation and mindfullness and self development that have also shaped me. As well I live in a relationship where good and open communication has a very high value. We practice what we preach. However, that comment about filling up the space with the sound of my own voice was Powerful and hit the Target.
Surprise, surprise, I am not perfect and still am overwhelmed on some occasions by my enthusiasm and speak more and louder than I need to. I remember the comment and can stop myself because there is an awareness about "Filling the space with the sound of my own voice."
"And you know what?" Bob says enthusiastically. "When you are busy filling up the space, the room, the car, with the sound of your own voice you don't hear the other person. You do not make space for them in the relationship."
What can you do? Stop talking and being enthusiastic? No way! Rather learn to be mindful and learn some new communications and relationship techniques from a qualified and experienced Life Coach.
We also suggest you read earlier blog posts from February 27th, March 6th, 10th and 12th. For those of you who read English only please be aware that the post from February 27th is in Norwegian.
Have a wonderfully mindful week and communicate thoughtfully.
Live long and prosper, Marianne and Bob ®