To keep love, love has to grow and change over time. Love has to keep growing to get to be Real Love instead of a bandaged and bleeding version of romantic love, which was never love, just infatuation that was never built upon.
What do you need more than anything to make this Real Love happen? Could it be that you and your partner need to really understand and respect each other? Research says a Big yes! And how might that come about?
Good communication is the way. Without that it is an uphill battle all the way. And what is good communication? It is the sharing of information, in such a way that it is understood by the listener.
Using a model called the Speaker - Listener technique, life can quickly change for the better with some practice and a little coaching.Good communication skills are at the very heart of all good relationships, personal, romantic, social and business.
Here is success in a nutshell. Listen to the person speaking, no interruptions. In order to insure both of you have understood, summarize back to them your understanding of what they have said. Assume your partner follows the same process. Things will go much better.
Note that this is a powerhouse of a technique and requires a little practice like all good things. We shall teach this technique, coach you and much more at our PREP Course , October 26.
Other important points to good communication in couples follows. Pay attention! Be in the Now, it is the only time you will have. Do not drift into the past or be lost in the future. Stay with what your partner is saying and understand. If you do not understand, ask.
Now it is your turn to speak. Be as clear as you can and to the point. Do not create a lecture out of something that can be expressed simply and directly. You partner will also know this process and together you will experience success and get the love back in your relationship.
Do not give up. Never. It takes practice to get it right and making mistakes is perfectly OK. That is how we learn. As well, keep your sense of humour. It is something to laugh about. Go communicate now!
Live, Love and Laugh, Marianne and Bob.
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