So here are several tips about being happier more often, sometimes even in the midst of a crisis or a downturn.
First, watch your behaviour and your thinking. Are there things you do automatically which are just negative habits you have turned into a negative and unhappy part of your life? Begin to watch your behaviour and your thoughts enough so that you can identify some of those things that trigger you to go in one of those negative or unhappy directions. When you have done that, you can simply stop when you see the trigger and substitute a no, a stop or a more positive belief or behaviour. You can get some help with this from experienced life coaches.
A good example is how you might automatically negatively interpret your husband or wife's behaviour without even thinking about it. "There she goes, criticizing me again for being slow. Hasn't she got something interesting to do?" Instead you could substitute curiosity for irritation. That would look something like this. " Hmm, she is criticising me, I wonder what is going on for her?"
Second, are you having a heavy day? Maybe you are feeling almost depressed. You want to be happy? Then make a choice for happiness. Choose to smile and hold the smile for a while. Come back to the smile as often as you can and feel the smile. There is a brain - body connection between the act of smiling and the brain. There are 43 muscles in the face. Seventeen that make a smile send a signal to the brain that you are Happy even when you are not. The brain releases endorphins and you feel somewhat better and happier.
Try this. For those who know how to meditate this is one small step simpler. For those who don't meditate follow these steps, it works.
Relax, back straight, but not rigid. Breathe in and mentally follow your breath in, feel it and naturally breathe out following and feeling the out breath. Do this a few minutes until you get into the rhythm of breathing in and breathing out. Now say the following words to yourself in your head, with your breathing, " Breathing in, I smile. Breathing out, I feel happy." Use the exact words and word order. Do this 10 times and repeat when you feel needed. Feel the difference. This is micro meditating with a tangible result.
Another bit of information to give you another reason to smile is that research has also shown smiling to improve your immune system functioning. How good does it get?
Final tip on how to be happy, change your energy. Put on some lively music you like and dance even if you don't feel like it. Dance around for five minutes or longer. You can even risk hopping up and down and cheering for yourself. Life is a blast.
So friends, watch your behaviour, change those negative triggers, smile, meditate, dance and cheer for the wonderful person you are and fake it until you become it!®
Have a positive day and smile, dance and cheer, Bob and Marianne