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Too Much Personal Sharing May Give You Bad Karma

28/5/2015

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You may be one of those persons who always tells everything, always shares your  story with your loved ones and near friends and more, because you want to share who you are and what you have done in your life.   Maybe this is your way of being intimate. Maybe it is your way of showing people the wild and crazy voyage you have had and that just maybe because of that you are an interesting person. Is this always a wise decision to spill the beans? To share everything? To be indiscrete?


My life experience says No to me. The story about yourself that you are about to share

may be too much to handle for others. And here's the thing, that story creates for others part of who they come to believe you are now. That story about you most often gets carried forward many years even though you have changed completely and would never do any of those things again. So the stories you have shared with others about yourself, become a conditioner for peoples vision of who you are now. In other words, you get judged partly on your past performance not who you are today. Some of those juicy details hang around fermenting in your present. 

This impression, this picture that folk have of you from the past can begin to work on your relationship to them. It changes , usually slowly, and not obviously the way they relate to you and suddenly, it seems, things have changed. Suspicions or doubts and judgements have crept in and affected the way people relate to you. Your sex life can go to hell, jealousy come in, who you are gets coloured over, trust goes out the window, lots of Bad Shit which is called Karma. And with Karma you get what you deserve. Why?

Well Karma is a universal law which in short form says that you get back what you create, in one form or another. What goes around comes around. You reap what you sow. Karma can be smoothed out by living mindfully, by meditating or by acting strategically or purposely, not just reacting to life. However, once you have triggered  karma it is in effect and you cannot change that fact. Learn to live mindfully.

You cannot change how people will judge you or think about you from your story. That is completely in their hands. You can remember that your story is just a story and it is not really who you are now. Maybe that story doesn't have near the value of living mindfully in 
the present.

Our bodies change completely over an 8 year period as do our thoughts and often our behaviours. You are what you think, believe and do and that does change too. We change continuously. Who we were in our stories is not often who we are now physically or mentally. 

You cannot change how others think and behave. You can learn from your past behaviour. Is it wise to share all your stories from the past? For they are that, just stories, and most likely no longer who you are. If you share be wise and mindful how and what you share.

Have a great summer, Live, love and laugh. 
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    Marianne, a Norwegian, is a Certified Life Coach, former Conflict Resolution Counsellor. She has also studied five years at the University of Stavanger.

    Bob has over 12 years experience as a life coach, career and business counsellor. Bob also worked for some years as a strategic policy analyst. He has a Masters in Public Administration and also worked as Business Consulting Services Manager in Canada. 

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