Two reasons. First, you can tell him how you want the haircut without him being professionally irritated. He adjusts to the feedback. After all, it is my money, hair and time. Right? Second, he likes to have a good conversation which means hearing the other, not just speaking. So we trade thoughts, listen, speak, give feedback, ask questions and compliment each other as humans.
During our session today we spoke about the barbers' role other than cutting hair. That role was not taught at trade school. The role is to pay attention to people. It is to speak with those who want some contact. It is to facilitate communication. In a way a kind of mindfullness. It is a service that is greatly appreciated by people, specially by those who have lost a partner or feel isolated. We observed that the visits by these people to their barber, doctor, dentist or corner store owner are important and some of the few contacts they might have.
We also talked about how people avoid doing things they can do that would improve their life quality. In turn they can lose certain important things such as personal cleanliness, physical health, mental health and communication skills. In the course of this conversation the phrase "use it or lose it" popped into my mind.
The Law of "use it or lose it" says that if we have a skill, are physically fit, are sharp about how we think, understand and remember things, then we must practice them to hold a level of fitness in these various areas. A good example for me is I once spoke French very well when I lived in Canada. I can no longer do that as I haven't practiced for years. Leon and I ended up agreeing that "Use it or lose it" is a great expression that is so useful.
So here is the thing. To learn a skill or technique you need to take in new information and practice until it gets to be somewhat automatic. To keep that skill you must continue to practice it and even improve it. We need to maintain body, mind and spirit by maintaining our skills. Self development points out that where there is a gap in our knowledge we can learn new skills. This process can be facilitated by mindfullness training and by working with an experienced life coach.
Stay socially engaged and be mindful ®
Love and light,
Bob and Marianne