Here you have a perfect chance to remind yourself that you and only you are responsible for your own thoughts and behaviors. Only you have control over your thoughts and behaviors. You do not control another persons thoughts and behaviors either, even if you try to at times or believe that you can. At least not in the kind of relationship most of us would like to experience.
Learning and accepting that we are totally responsible for our own thoughts and behaviors is an enormously powerful reality to get a grip on. This gives you immense freedom and power to experience the quality of relationships and life you will have. It allows you to control the only things you can control, your thoughts, beliefs and behaviors.
I do not have enough space or time to fully cover this issue here. It could take a book in itself to truly cover all the angles. Trust me and my knowledge that this is one of the most powerful tips that you could learn to improve your life, married or otherwise. Take responsibility for yourself and the corollary of that is ----? What?
You do know the answer to this question. What is the opposite to taking personal responsibility?
YOU ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE
Do not blame others for how you feel, think or behave! It is not their fault. They have Not caused the problem. You have chosen to see it as it is for yourself: You always have a choice as to how you think , feel and behave.
This is a very big bite to chew on so I am going to leave it with you to think about. Was it her or him that made me feel like this? Or, was it my choices that made me feel and act like I did?
Stay healthy, happy and be responsible. Remember, you always have a choice. ®
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